I made this sign after seeing a few other law enforcement wives post about one similar. Being a significant other to a law enforcement officer is something I’m very new to, but am very proud of. In light of recent events, there are many individuals who feel differently than I do. It is not a police-friendly world and that is very apparent. Having the man I’m going to marry, suit up and serve his community is a mixture of feelings: pride, inspiration, fear, excitement, etc. My partner in life has chosen a career path where he serves and protects others, he gets to share his love, brilliant mind and patience with people that otherwise may have never met him. He gets to see a side of our community that while not always glamorous, is humbling.
Given the reality of what’s happening currently, we’ve had a lot of serious talks, we know where the other stands and we’re standing on the same side. I will support him in the decisions he makes while on the road and he will return with honor. Our conversations go along the lines of, as long as you come home knowing you did the right thing and and you can come home with honor, you have done your best.
We as a society are hyper-critical of police officers right now. We are taking Facebook videos, media coverage, and attention-grabbing headlines as the only facts. These situations are far too complex to fully understand after seeing some pictures or videos. That goes for both sides, we do not know any of the individuals involved in the situations or what has led up to that point when someone decided to press record or snap a picture. As a whole we are angry, hurt and scared and we’re set on trying to prove the other side wrong. Take a moment. Feel your feelings, have your opinions and let them form, and share them if you must. I am not here to change anyone’s opinion or make you agree with my own, there is no honor in that. However, there is one thought I would like for everyone to expand on – one or two individuals are not a representation of all. This applies to everything, everywhere, everyday and everyone.
My priority right now is to make a life with Tim and a future, to have him home safe so we can adventure and live our lives together. No relationship, path, or life is easy, we have a lot to learn and a lot of room for growth. But we have each other, we have an incredible support system within our friends, family and department, and we have hope.